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For men, climaxing during sex can be quite a bit easier than for our female counterparts. However, is reaching the peak essential to having good sex?
An orgasm is to sex as a cover letter is to a resume. Technically, a resume doesn't need a cover letter, but if you are to be taken seriously, you better provide a good one.
In the past, sex has been a learning process for me - taking what I'd learned through the media or by word of mouth from friends and putting it into action.
Discovering more about women never ceases to amaze me and today I feel much more confident about pleasing a woman - it's often easier said than done.
Because many women like different things, here's some advice for men to help please their women more and produce enjoyable and consistent orgasms:
- The type of position during sex is important for a woman's orgasm when stimulating the G-spot or clitoris. Letting the woman be on top will allow her to set the tempo and to guide your penis where she wants it.
- The G-spot is commonly located in the inside, upper-front part of the vagina. So, doggy style is a good way to hit the spot.
- Next, controlling your own orgasm can make you last longer and will make your female partner much happier. According to infosex.com, relaxing your body, specifically your pubococcygeus muscle, will make you last longer.
The PC is the muscle you squeeze to prevent urinating. Infosex.com recommends that when you begin sex, relax the PC muscle and avoid tensing it until you are ready to finish. If you tense up your PC muscle, you might be looking at an early orgasm.
- My last tip is to understand the two types of ways women attain orgasms: clitoral and vaginal.
It's important to understand whether your partner can achieve a vaginal orgasm. For instance, my ex was not able to have an orgasm during sex until I learned how to pleasure her clitoris.
Most women do not reach G-spot orgasm because they are not aware of it or haven't tried it, according to sexinfo.com.
The clitoral orgasm must be understood by men. If a man is focusing on vaginal intercourse and doesn't stimulate the clitoris, his partner may never enjoy an orgasm.
Giving more head before intercourse can help warm up the oven as can rubbing the clit during vaginal sex. But be gentle - with the high concentration of nerve endings in the clit, too much pressure can be painful.
Orgasms are very important to truly enjoy sex. Now, if you have a hard time getting your partner to climax, don't stress. Try these tips or make your partner try them. If they don't work, there are a lot more tips on infosex.com/sex-tips.html.
And men - you know you can finish without a problem. Take the time and pleasure your partner. A woman deserves an orgasm, too.
Chris Thompson can be reached at cthompson@theorion.com
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