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Want to spice up your sex life? It’s time to knock on the back door.
Known as “fudge packing,” “rimming” and “butt fiddling,” anal sex is the stimulation of the anus with a penis, finger, tongue or object, such as a dildo.
Though historical religious prohibitions and sodomy laws still make it somewhat taboo in our society, anal play is a great way to enhance sexual pleasure. There are numerous nerve endings in the region, so both men and women can enjoy anal arousal and even achieve an orgasm when it is done correctly.
Relaxation is key to effective anal intercourse, so it is vital that both partners are comfortable and consenting before starting anything.
The muscle outside of the rectum, called the anal sphincter, ordinarily tightens if stimulated, so attempts at inserting something may be uncomfortable, according to an article by Dr. Gloria Glickstein Brame, a clinical sexologist. If the person being penetrated is uneasy and cannot loosen their sphincter, forced entry could cause a serious injury.
A great way to get in the mood is to take an erotic bath or give each other sensual massages.
If a penis seems like too much to try at first, try having your anus fingered during doggy-style sex or have your partner explore you with his or her tongue during oral. If you can get this to feel pleasurable for you, then it will be much easier to enjoy penetration from a larger object.
Lubrication is essential for anal sex. The thicker, water-based lubricants are best and many online sex-toy stores, such as adameve.com, sell lubes specifically for anal that contain benzocaine to help numb any discomfort.
The Discovery Health Sexual Health Center online suggests manually massaging on a liberal amount of lubricant before intercourse to reduce chances of tearing.
Men can also benefit from anal action.
A man’s G-spot, his prostate, is located about two inches inside the anal canal, so his partner can use a finger or a prostate vibrator to help him climax.
Remember health and safety are the most important things when it comes to any sexual activity. STDs can be spread very easily through the anus, so always wear a condom, which can actually help with gliding.
Also, never let anything that was used during anal sex come in contact with the genitals or mouth without thoroughly washing it first in order to prevent the spread of bacteria.
On that note, be sure not to engage in anal play for at least an hour after having a bowel movement in order to avoid getting fecal matter on anything inserted into the anus, known as chocolate-dipping.
Following these tips will ensure your experience will be gratifying and sensual.
Being anal is not such a bad thing, after all.
Jeanetta can be reached at
sexcolumnist@theorion.com
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