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Society has changed drastically — and I love it. Instead of women getting together for Tupperware parties or cookie exchanges, there is a new social affair that brings us together — passion parties, “the ultimate girl’s night in.”
Women who attend these events are more likely single then married, and they are more interested in how to stimulate their clitoris then learning the best way to store leftovers.
Passion parties are quite the fad these days and women gathering to drink cocktails, gossip and browse a selected array of vibrators, dildos, anal beads and strap-ons help illustrate the more widely accepted act of masturbation and sex.
We all need alone time. Whether we’re single or taken, sometimes touching ourselves is much needed. When our hand gets repetitive or boring, what better to turn to than specialized sex toys?
Passion parties provide an array of choices from plain Jane vibrators, to intricate ones that guarantee finding your G-spot. I wasn’t even aware that a toy could achieve that — which shows just how much of a toy rookie I am.
While vibrators and dildos are all fun and games, I wonder about the fear women have of getting too used to toys and not being able to orgasm from a partner.
I see the slight downside of sex toys when they become too useful or too reliable. It’s so easy to come when taking advantage of a vibrator. After all, toys are manufactured specifically to get you off.
I think once a woman starts jeopardizing her ability to orgasm with a partner, she is too used to coming from battery-operated vibration. If you find yourself in this situation, it might be time to re-evaluate how often you’re changing the batteries.
Our bodies are so intricate and there are many ways to achieve an orgasm. This means we should experiment and get to know ourselves so it won’t be impossible when it comes to letting go and achieving pleasure when with a partner. Passion parties not only offer the opportunity to buy good vibrators, they are also excellent opportunities for women to get tips on pleasure both with and without a partner.
I also understand the ladies who might never be able to get off when with a partner. To those women I say: “Bring on the sex toys between the sheets,” because he might be just as excited to use them on you as you are when you’re alone.
I’ve never had to bring toys into the bedroom for technical reasons, but I’m intrigued to do so anyway. I think it would be a good way to spice things up and introduce a new kind of fun when having sex.
So the next time someone asks you to become a Mary Kay consultant, or tells you to consider hosting Cookie Lee jewelry parties, just say no.
Tell them the real fun is in passion parties — because everyone likes sex, and what could be better than skipping out on an awkward trip to the store and shopping for sensual pleasures right in the comfort of a friend’s home?
Dionna Mash can be reached at
sexcolumnist@theorion.com
10 comments
Sounds a lot like you yourself are confused especially when it comes to your own sexuality and self identity. Don't hate others because they enjoy that aspect of being human.